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Do People Choose
Their Sexual Orientation?
Most
medical professionals, including organizations such as the American Academy of
Pediatrics and the American Psychological Association, believe that sexual
orientation involves a complex mixture of biology, psychology, and
environmental factors. A person's genes and inborn hormonal factors may play a
role as well. These medical professionals believe that — in most cases — sexual
orientation, whatever its causes, is not simply chosen.
Not
everyone agrees. Some believe that individuals can choose who they are
attracted to — and that people who are gay have chosen to be attracted to
people of the same gender. No matter what someone's sexual orientation is, in
some cases it may be affected by the life experiences that person has had.
There
are lots of opinions and stereotypes about sexual orientation, though, and some
of these can be hurtful to people of all orientations. For example, having a
more "feminine" appearance or interest does not mean that a guy is
gay. And having a more "masculine" appearance doesn't mean a girl is
lesbian. As with most things, making assumptions just based on looks can lead
to the wrong conclusion.
The Importance
of Talking
No
matter what someone's sexual orientation is, learning about sexuality and
relationships can be difficult. It can help to talk to someone about the
confusing feelings that go with growing up, perhaps a parent or other family
member, a close friend or sibling, or a school counselor. It's not always easy
to find somebody to talk to, but many people find that confiding in someone
they trust and feel close to, even if they're not completely sure how that
person will react, turns out to be a positive experience.
In
many communities, resources such as youth groups composed of teens who are
facing similar issues can provide opportunities for people to talk to others
who understand. Psychologists, psychiatrists, family doctors, and trained
counselors can help teens cope — confidentially and privately — with the
difficult feelings that go with their developing sexuality. These experts also
can help teens find ways to deal with any peer pressure, harassment, and
bullying they may face.
Whether
gay, straight, bisexual, or just not sure, almost all teens have questions
about physically maturing and about sexual health (for example, avoiding STDs). It's important to find a doctor
or health professional to discuss these issues with — someone who can provide
reliable health advice.
Although
sexual feelings and behavior are important parts of human development, there
are still many unanswered questions about human sexuality. Researchers are
constantly learning new information, and undoubtedly people will know more
about sexual orientation in the coming years.
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